You could call it communication but it is not that. Communication is saying I will get the first interrupt, you get the second and bob will get the third and we will rotate. Everyone knows communication is a key to success in the game and that good communication is a skill. Being talkative is something people rarely mention. People that are talkative and personable in the way they talk will always advance faster.
It is a case that we all have seen and you can usually peg the talkative person in a pug pretty quickly. They will talk in raid, or speak in the voice chat you are using it, but not necessarily about what you are doing, just talk. Not overly much, but idle chit chat. They are a personable person and usually appear to be in a good mood and chatty.
When it comes to skills in game this is the one I am lacking the most. I do not like to chit chat. If there is a task at hand, deal with it, talk about it, I do not give a crap if you just saw this funny cat video. I am there to do a job and that is what we should be doing and talking about. Call it business like, call it focused, call it bland, it can be called many things, but it most certainly can not be called being talkative.
Even if I am the only one talking and explaining a fight, it is not talkative, that is different. Talkative is being friendly. That is not me. I don't play the game to make friends and it shows. As I said, this is the skill I am lacking the most, I just need to learn how to fake it.
What brought this to mind? A combination of two things from yesterday. One I saw myself while doing the looking for raid and the other was something a friend was talking about when challenged by someone else on their server.
In the LFR there was a healer that started speaking the second we zoned in. Idle chit chat, the stuff friendly people talk about with each other except this was not a group of friends. I guess the skill of being talkative has no off switch. Either way he made it clear he was the alpha male healer by putting himself front line and being talkative, basically letting people know he is there, he is a nice person, and he is going to do the best he can. Coming across quite personable if you will.
Two fights into the run one of the other healers asked how they managed to get all that gear. The talkative healer was in half heroic gear and half normal gear. He clearly has raided and been successful, or lucky, enough to get a fair deal of gear. He said that his guild is decent and can get down at least 4 heroic bosses a week. Okay, that is fair, at least he was not being a braggart about it, but then again a person that is a master of the skill of being talkative will never call anyone else out. They will be confident in their ability while never putting down another person in the process. Hence the reason they end up liked so much.
The healer posted the healing meters and the heroic geared healer was 3rd, well behind two much lesser geared healers and the tank said, how do you heal heroic with those numbers. The healer, being the master of being talkative, did not get defensive and said that while they did not seem exceptional he has the achievements to prove they are all that is needed to down at least some of the bosses on heroic. How can anyone argue with that. He did down bosses and while his numbers were less than my 470 geared priest alt can do, he did not make some excuse like he was not trying here or that this was trivial content so why pump the numbers. He was a master of the being talkative skills for sure. The conversation ended, we moved on, and this heroic geared healer basically got carried on the next two fights in terrace as he finished 5th in both.
The second event was when a rogue on my friends server was stating they were the best rogue on the server, a little arrogant but said in good humor no doubt, and someone else said that they were not even in the top 20 on the server they responded, then how come I have the best gear.
My friend asked me my opinion of that and I said gear means nothing. While gear makes you capable of doing more if you are not skilled enough you will never get the potential out of that gear. People can have fantastic gear and subpar ability. It happens more than you would think. I might even go as far as saying that half the people with heroic raid gear are less skilled than the average LFRer. They just invest more time in raiding and eventually they get it down. Repetition pays off.
The friend in question had pugged a HoF 25 man on his server over the weekend with the self proclaimed best rogue on the server and beat him on every fight. He not only beat him but beat him by at least 25K on every single fight there.
He started to feel down on himself that he can beat this rogue so easily, had that day and in previous pugs this expansion, but he can never get gear. After we talked a little and he answered a few questions I asked about the rogue, he asked me if I knew who he was talking about. I said no, I do not know him, but I know his type. He is the talkative type. The one that is personable and friendly and everyone likes them so they take him along. It is not about skill, it is because people like to have him around. That is why he has all that gear.
My friends response was quite humorous if you ask me with what he said once he got the grasp of what I was saying. You mean he is like the girl that always gets an invite to the raid just because she is a girl and has a cute voice on vent. I said, exactly. It has nothing to do with skill, people just like having him around just like all those horny teenagers like to have the girls around because they are girls.
Being talkative is the unspoken skill, no one talks about it oddly enough. The skill to get people to like you and invite you to things just from what you say is powerful in game. It is of course more than just being talkative, you have to be good in a group setting and personable but it is the act of talking and getting yourself noticed that sets the whole thing in motion.
It is why that rogue on my friends server is the best geared rogue on the server even if his skills are lacking. It is why that paladin healer was decked out in heroics even if his healing skills were questionable at best. Both of those people got their gear because they were in groups that could down the content. Both those people could have easily been replaced with people that were better, much better, but they were talkative, friendly, and likable, so their guild keeps them around and in turn they get the gear eventually.
It is the talkative personally thing that leads these people to success well past where their ability alone would take them.
It was not his skill as a player that made the rogue the best geared on his server, it was his skill at being the talkative type that did.
One might ask, how do I master that? I would be glad to give you some tips, but remember, they are coming from the type of person that is not the talkative type. I would rather not raid at all and have zero progression before I would play the role of the talkative person and become friends with someone just to get a spot on a raid team.
Five tips to mastering the skill of being talkative:
1) Make Yourself Known:
Joining in on the conversation is a good way to get your name out there. If you stay silent, you stay unknown.
2) Be Friendly:
A true master of the talkative arts is a friendly person. They do not talk down on people and always have nice words to offer. That is why people like having them around.
3) Be Upbeat:
No one wants to hear people all happy they wiped a few times but they don't want to hear someone whining about it either. A talkative person will break the tension after a hard wipe with a small joke, but not one at the expense of another.
4) Be Available:
Talkative is not just about talking when you want to get somewhere but being talkative when others might need someone to talk to. Listening is just as important for the master of the talkative.
5) Don't Be Me:
Grumpy does not work for the talkative type. People do not want to hear someone complain all the time, even more so in a pug, don't be grumpy.
In the end, being talkative opens doors. Being talkative and personable when doing so will get you remembered more for the fact people like having you around then for your skills. Every time you see someone doing poorly in great gear you can be almost sure they are probably a pretty cool person to have around, or at least some crew thinks they are, and that is why they have that gear.
When it comes to most middle of the road guilds, no matter what anyone might tell you, how you interact with others is what will win you the raiding spot over skill most of the time as long as you are not a complete disaster of a player. Remember, all middle of the road guilds are more about enjoying the time they raid than they are about progression and a talkative person with a good personality and at least decent in game skills will always get a raid spot in the end.
This old dog can never learn that new trick, but maybe it will work for one of you. Go out and work on being talkative. If it is gear you are looking for, it will pay off, trust me.
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