The last few weeks we have had some new people joining us for normal runs or mythic trash farm. Even bought along some of the people for the early bosses on heroic. I do not see any rising stars in the bunch, at least not on the limited impressions I have had of them, but despite what blizzard is trying to push the game toward, raiding isn't everything.
We can always use all types of people in the guild and do not strictly look for raiders, although good ones are always welcome of course. A good community within a guild has many working layers. There are the progression raiders, the serious PvPers, the part timers, the normal mode players, the battle ground warriors, the alt o holics, the grinders, the gatherers, the socials, you name it. When you are in a casual guild you do not need to be laser focused on one thing. It has to be a melting pot.
This is why we do the normal runs and trash runs, it gives us a chance to mingle, to get to know your fellow guild mates. Connections are made, friendships are formed, people talk about their level 94 alts that they will now level together tomorrow. A damage dealer will talk about how he hates the long waits in queue so a healer or a tank offer to "hit me up" so they can get an instant, or near instant dungeon.
Just because there are many people with many different focuses in the game doesn't mean that people do not have common interests. The raider who is stocking up 4 barns on a daily basis, the gold goblin that has barns running to make gold, the non raider who just wants to make their own gear and needs bloods from their barn and the new 100 that can't really trap things on their own or the achievement hunter that is just trapping to get the achievement. They all play differently, but they all have something in common and these little get together runs bring them on the same page so the next day they go elite trapping together.
Things like this are what build a guilds community. Impromptu world PvP running around as a group starting trouble. Naked dungeon runs. Naked arena runs. Achievement runs for old raids. You name it, each and every little event you do brings people together and make a guild so much more than just a bunch of people hanging out under the same banner. It is what makes a guild a community and maybe even feel like extended in game family.
But every so often someone joins the mix, like someone we have had recently in the raid runs, that just seems to click wrong. Wrong with everyone. The social non raiders do not like them, the active raiders do not like them, neither the progression raiders nor the normal mode raiders nor even the LFR only raiders. The alt a holics do not like them, the achievement hunters do not like them, even the pure socials who just like to hang out and chat more than anything else do not like them.
They are "that" person.
I can not place my finger on it but I dislike them too. It is not just the copious complains, remarks or observations I keep hearing from others. I am the type that will usually play with anyone, even if I am not all that fond of them because I am always aware of the big picture. But I dread them signing up for an event. I am so glad they are not geared enough or experienced enough to bring on our proper raids. I do not want to be around them. I would rather log off than be part of an event they join in and the sad part here is that it is not just me. Everyone dislikes them. I gave them more time to pass judgement than everyone else did figuring maybe it was just a rough getting to know you phase but even I find being around them unpleasant.
There seems to be only one person in the entire guild that likes them and it is going to cause trouble because it is the guild leader. I've already been told in no uncertain words that if they come on a normal raid that a few of my main raiders will no longer be coming along to help. They are always willing to help by bring their mains to help gear up new players, alts of some people that need gear, or just whomever we can squeeze in but as much as they do have a desire to help the guild as a whole their dislike of "that" person greatly outweighs it and they can not bring themselves to raid with them.
I am sure I don't need to tell you what the impact of losing a few people capable of doing 50K-60K will do to a normal run where we are bringing new players, under geared players or rotating who gets to bring an alt. Having a few solid damage dealers makes every single fight easier and not having them means we can not bring as many lesser people on normal runs. If that is the case, than there really is not reason to run normal runs, at least as I see it. I don't want to do progression on normal mode all over again.
One person will not even get on voice chat if they are on it. Even if they are in a different channel. They will log in, see them there, and leave instantly. After one odd event one evening he even removed two of his characters from guild because he wanted to play them and didn't even want to see "that" person talk in chat. That is how much he really dislikes "that" person. He quit the guild just to not see their name in guild chat.
I don't understand why everyone dislike this person. I don't even know why I do. "That" person just rubbed me wrong the first time we spoke and my dislike grew over time. It is not like they did anything wrong. "That" person is willing to help anyone that needs it. Will give anyone an instant queue to a dungeon or LFR, all they need to do is ask. If they want to buy something and are short on gold "that" person will lend it to them, heck, even give it to them if it is not much. "That" person shares materials, potions, flasks, "that" person is the ideal player in that sense. A true team player. But it seems the team dislikes "that" person and I have no clue why.
I think maybe they come off as trying to hard, maybe that might be it and it just rubs people the wrong way, I know that is partly where I can tag some of my dislike of them. Coming off as trying to hard really can be a turn off. Maybe they come off as being a know it all, which is the complaint someone mentioned to me. Whatever it is, they are most definitely "that" person.
My issue is I need to figure out what to do with "that" person and how to handle them or they can destroy a good thing. I don't really want to be rude and say you are no longer welcome to come to things with us but it almost feels as that is my only true option. I do whatever I can to not be a dick, but it seems like this time I might have to. They can end up destroying the chemistry guild if they keep coming along even if that is not their intention because "that" person just makes everyone not want to be around them and in this case, being the only person that likes them is the guild leader, this little issue can become a big problem, and fast.
About the only thing I have going for me is that if I tell the guild leader, being they are "that" persons friend, to handle it they will. I just do not want to draw that card unless I have to. I've given "that" person some time. I've given "that" person some advice on how to fit in better. I've tried my damn hardest to help "that" person fit in, even if I didn't like them either, because that is part of what I do. I handle the sometimes delicate balance of personalities so we can all work together. But it did not work. Something needs to be done and I just do not know what.
Have you ever run into "that" person? If so, how did you deal with them?
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